How do we properly understand the biblical role of a wife?

Rozbudowana analiza książki na temat “Mądrej żony”.  Tekst jest również autorstwa Joanny. Dziękuję w imię Jezusa. Z uwagi na wczorajsze pytanie czytelnika “gdzie są mądre żony” dodam tytułem wstępu, że tego typu teksty, instruktaże są nie po to aby kogoś wprowadzić w dół, ale pokazać, że rodząc się na nowo musimy do końca życia pracować nad sobą. Pan Jezus przyszedł do chorych a nie zdrowych, a to oznacza ni mniej ni więcej pracę naszą nad naszymi słabościami. Prace nad naszymi BRAKAMI.

What better way to evangelize than with your behavior, with your testimony? This applies to both genders. Perhaps soon I will summarize the book in a version for men.

Think how much more you will convince your husbands and wives by respecting them, by loving them, by being resistant to their bad and uncultured behavior? How much more will we convince our loved ones by caring for them, supporting them, keeping their spirits up?

Many think that faith is only about election forgetting the cross and humbling themselves.

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I believe that every Christian woman who is a wife or wants to become one should look at the picture of the role of a wife that emerges from God's Word. I know from personal experience that a proper understanding of this subject completely changes one's thinking and attitude, setting a woman on the right track that God wants us to be on so that we can bear good fruit in our relationships. A correct view of a woman's role as a wife greatly helps to mend relationships in a relationship and open your heart even more to that other person. God's will is that we love one another. Showing love to our neighbor begins with those around us, first with our families, our husbands and children.

The following text addresses only a substitute for the above topic. It is based on two books that explore this issue in depth:

• "More precious than pearls" Gary L. Thomas

• "The woman your husband wants" Debi Pearl

I highly recommend these two books for any woman who wants to better understand the nature of a man and the role of a wife in a marriage according to God's Word. In order for your marriage to be good and happy and for you to be fulfilled, you must first have a good understanding of God's plan for your wife, and remember that the transformation of your marriage begins with you, your thinking, your heart, and your actions toward your husband.

There is also a book for men on the role of the husband:

• "The man your wife wants" Michael Pearl

Bible speaks of eight things that God requires of wives "That the word of God be not blasphemed." (Titus 2:3-5):

1. Be sober: do your duty, be temperate, self-controlled, prudent; learn to make wise decisions and make wise judgments.

2. To love your husbandTo love him is to put his needs before your own. As a wife you have a ministry to your husband, and only then to your children. You were created and exist to be a help to your husband first, and then to your children.

3. Love your childrenThe most important thing a mother can do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy for them. She will only do this if she strongly loves and respects their father, if she herself is content with life. She gets involved in her children's lives, spends time with them creatively, and forms a strong bond with them based on love and trust.

4. To be prudent: prudent, sensible; wisely avoid mistakes and choose appropriate means to achieve a desired end; be reserved, courteous, polite, honest, sincere in interpersonal relationships.

5. Be clean: pure in thought, speech, and deed; innocent, modest, and respectable in all things; modest in appearance.

6. Take care of the house: guardian of the home hearth, hospitable, cares for the home; makes proper use of her time at home, making it a clean and pleasant refuge for all household members.

7. Be good: sincere, cheerful, virtuous, valuable, competent, clever, courteous, kind, merciful, active, industrious, helpful, pleasant, pleasant to deal with, amiable, honorable, faithful, gracious, wise, generous, good doer.

8. Be obedient to your husband: helpful, submissive, ready and willing to obey commands and desires, to refrain from what is forbidden.

Let's take a closer look at the last issue. But from the beginning...

The right help for the man

God gave Adam the most precious gift a man can receive - a woman.

"Then the Lord God said: It is not good for a man to be alone; therefore I will make suitable help for him." (Genesis 2:18)

And then God "he brought her to the man." (Romans 2:22)

"He who has found a wife - good has been found and has gained favor with the Lord." (Proverbs 18:22)

God says it is not good for a man to be alone, and the answer to his needs is a wife, called goodness. Furthermore, a man finds favor with the Lord by finding a wife.

Remember that God loves women absolutely as much as He loves men.

If you are a wife, understand that you were created to fulfill this plan, and with the aptitude proper to women, you are capable of fulfilling it. You are an asset, you are a help to a man's needs and deficiencies, you are his complement. This is how God created you and this is the meaning of your existence. You are naturally equipped with everything you need to be a help and support to your husband. Some people think that this auxiliary role means that women were created as servants for men. However, the Hebrew word translated as "help" is ezer (The Bible uses this word in the context of the support God Himself gives to a person.) It describes someone who surrounds, protects, and helps. This is not a servant role, but rather a very important role, one of helping someone who needs help. When God created woman to be like Him in helping man, He assigned her a role that was respectful, not demeaning or servile. He recognized that a man would need a woman but that does not mean that she is to take an inferior position. A woman is not made inferior by being a companion to a man, and a man is not made weaker by needing a woman.

You may be thinking that your husband doesn't deserve you to be his help. But who says anything about deserving? You can only be fulfilled as a woman if you act according to your nature. If you take on a leadership role in the family, you are not making God, yourself, or your husband happy. You are working against yourself and against God's will. The crux of the matter is not whether you are better at the task than your husband, but that you do what your Creator "designed" you to do.

The ideal support person is one who does not require the list of ongoing responsibilities that children usually require. Her desire to please motivates her to look around and notice things that she knows her husband would be pleased to see done. She does not invent excuses for not doing them. If the wife becomes such a help, the husband will know he has found a wonderful woman. Our job is to learn how we can help our husbands in any way we can.

A good wife will have a desire to be useful to her husband.

Obedience to your husband

According to the Supreme decree, cultural context aside, it is in a woman's nature to focus all her attention and interest on her husband, and she is to be subject to his authority. This is God's will, regardless of what feminists and the modern world preach to the contrary.

"I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, and man is the head of woman, and the head of Christ is God." (1 Corinthians 11:3)

No cultural context can invalidate this verse because it says that the foundation of male leadership is rooted in the very essence of the feminine nature. Just as God is the head of Christ and Christ is the head of man, so a man is the head of a woman (his wife). The husband loses none of his dignity by being subject to Christ, nor does the wife lose her dignity by being subject to her husband. In this hierarchy, everyone will find a sense of meaning and security by submitting to their head.

"Żony niechaj będą poddane swym mężom, jak Panu, bo mąż jest głową żony, jak i Chrystus – Głową Kościoła: On – Zbawca Ciała. Lecz jak Kościół poddany jest Chrystusowi, tak i żony mężom – we wszystkim.” (Eph 5:22-24)

We should look at our submission to our husbands with as much love and zeal as our submission to Christ and love for Him. The Bible says that wives are to be subject to their husbands as to the Lord, as if they were submitting to the Lord.

Since the husband's authority is entrusted to him by God, by submitting to her husband, the wife recognizes God's authority, so she really submits to God.

That is, wives who obey their husbands are thereby obeying God.

This is the proper attitude for a Christian woman who wants to live according to God's command.

Our subordination to our own husbands does not originate in the superiority of man over woman. God has not established one gender higher than the other in the hierarchy.

God exhorts wives to obey even their husbands who are not believers and do not follow Christ. God reveals in His Word a plan for the wife on how she is to win her lost husband for Christ through her holy conduct.

"In the same way, let wives be subject to their husbands, so that even when some of them do not listen to the doctrine, by the very conduct of their wives they will be won over without doctrine when they look to your fear-filled, holy conduct. Let their adornment be not that which is external: the combing of the hair and the gold rings or the dressing in gowns, but the interior of a man's heart with an inviolable calmness and gentleness of spirit, which is so precious before God. For so also of old the holy women who hoped in God adorned themselves, and were subject to their husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him master. You have become her children, because you do well and do not fear no intimidation." (1P 3, 1-6)

Most women spend their entire married life in conflict with their own husbands, trying to change them. It is a duel of willpower that no woman ever really wins, because even if she manages to get him to obey, she loses his love and he then loses his self-respect.

While women, tend to reduce all issues to who is right, God points authoritatively to the true essence of who He has established as the leader and who He has created to be His help. When a woman resists a man or tries to change him, he becomes even more stubborn and her own heart fills with bitterness. If a woman obeys God, a man has nothing to oppose or resist, nothing to conquer or overcome or dominate.

A woman's greatest strength lies in obedience to God,

expressed by obedience and respect to her own husband.

When it departs from God's order, it creates a life of confusion, bitterness, and disaster - for both spouses.

In closing, a quote from "The woman your husband wants":

"Kiedy dziewczyna nagle uświadamia sobie, że jest już na dobre związana z mężczyzną, który nie jest taki jaki jej zdaniem być powinien, zwykle zamiast się do niego dostosować, spędza resztę ich pożycia małżeńskiego – które może być niezbyt długie – próbując go zmienić, by stał się taki, jaki jej mężczyzna powinien być. Większość dziewcząt już wkrótce po ślubie dokonuje strasznego odkrycia, że być może trafił im się głupek. Zamiast lamentować nad swoim losem, powinny prosić Boga o mądrość. Mądrością jest wiedzieć, co ci się dostało, gdy poślubiłaś tego mężczyznę i uczyć się dostosowywać do niego takiego, jaki jest, a nie jakim chciałabyś, żeby był. Mężczyźni nie są tacy sami. Twój mąż najprawdopodobniej nie będzie taki jak twój tata, brat ani jak bohater twojej ulubionej powieści. Nasi mężowie są stworzeni na podobieństwo Boże, ale potrzeba byłoby wszystkich typów mężczyzn razem wziętych, żeby chociaż w przybliżeniu dopełnić ten obraz. Żaden mężczyzna nie ma tych wszystkich cech w doskonałych proporcjach. Gdyby miał, byłby zbyt idealny, żeby cię potrzebować. Bóg daje niedoskonałe kobiety niedoskonałym mężczyznom, żeby mogli być współdziedzicami łaski życia i stać się wspólnie kimś więcej niż którekolwiek z nich mogłoby kiedykolwiek być samotnie. Jeśli będziesz zwalczała niedoskonałości swego męża albo próbowała dominować tam, gdzie on nie potrafi, przegracie oboje. Jeśli będziesz go kochać i prawdziwie wspierać z jego niedoskonałościami i bez przejmowania władzy, oboje będziecie wzrastać i wieść udane życie.”